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                                                           PSYCHOLOGY

    Laura: I love you so much but you are so cold to me

 Laura: why? I am dying to feel loved by you.

If you only hold me or caress me that will make a great difference to me. I have gotten to believe that those feelings of love and care are alien to you

Bill: when you hold me and kiss me I feel I am in heaven so I guess I know what you are talking about

Laura: well then if you know what it feels like you surely know what I mean. That makes me more puzzle about your behavior

Bill: inside of myself I am going crazy because I want to tell you how much I love you but my feelings can not unfold thru acts of loving

Laura: I think I know what happens your dad was cold and repressed and your mother couldn’t show her love either, both of then were pretty cold and affection was an unspoken word at home. But you can change if you try giving me a hug and kiss and practice caressing me for 30 minute every day

Bill: maybe that’s a good idea if I behave like that towards you then probably what I feel inside will connect to what I do; that’s cool you are a genius and I love you 

It's amazing how much each person in a relationship brings into it. Your relationship includes not just each other, but each other's past. You find things from their past still affect how they relate to you. Past relationships with parents, teachers, siblings, and most of all other romantic relationships, have a great affect on how a person relates today. People react in response to past hurts and habits, often completely subconsciously.

It's very important to talk to each other about your past because you learn what makes them behave how they do. Often you might learn that an action or reaction has nothing to do with you, but is a response to something someone else did long ago. When two people fully understand this, it makes a relationship much smoother. It helps to know you're fighting something aside from just each other. It also lets you help each other to fight alongside each other to work out the problem and make both of you better people.