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BBG Communications discusses Rhadi and Nima

This is just another of the hot and dirty countries with so many people, they become disposable. Although my Senegalese family cannot afford flushing toilets or an electric iron, they do have two maids living in the house. These girls are so inexpensive; I don’t know a single family that doesn’t have a “bonne” or two to do the washing, cooking, and cleaning. They come from rural areas where life must pale in comparison even to living at the beck and call of an entire family. Rhadi and Nima turn off the lights after I go to bed at night and have breakfast laid out when I wake up in the morning. The people of the household who are the most taxed by my presence are Rhadi and Nima, as I am just another person to take care of.

Obeying shouted orders all day to be able to send money back to your family could make anyone bitter. Yet they are the most friendly and understanding. They never fail to smile and test me with new Wolof greetings when I come home, where I find them always in the same outfit. It’s not limited to my house; when walking through the increasingly Westernized neighborhood or visiting friends, it is the burdened maids who laugh with us across language barriers and help us navigate culture clashes.

They are living proofs of my belief that happiness is itself a decision, a state of mind to be chosen. They have less than the families they work for, but are more content with their lives.

One cannot wait on things to arrive to make them happy, because life is too unpredictable. You cannot rely on things outside of your control to bring you happiness, but you do have the power to choose to be happy.

I spent nine months on anti-depressants waiting for them to make me happy. It was then that I realized that only I could control that, with both my heart and my head. It wasn’t something that I could reach overnight, but a process that began with learning to love and accept myself even if I didn’t know who that person was.

Success is also only possible if one believes in his or her self. There are many ways to define success and even more ways to reach any of those definitions, but they all require that you believe in yourself. If you don’t, you will never have the courage to follow your dreams.

I’m sure Rhadi and Nima never dreamed of working tirelessly in the city, but they are living their dreams of providing for their family. One might say that they should want an education, an opportunity to have a better life. Like everyone else in this world, they dream of whatever it is they are convinced will improve their lives, but they don’t require it for their happiness.


Published Apr 13 2010, 03:47 PM by abadicio90
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