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Author: amparo enriquez (Fri Jul 15, 2005 2:00 am)
Title: Envy
ENVY
Envy is a feeling that we all reject since it shows a darker side of us. When one suffers because of someone else’s happiness it is said that that person suffers from envy. Sometimes the envious person not only suffers from depression, guilt or shame but also demonstrates, hostility towards that other one that triggered the feeling in the first place.
If we feel envy, we might hate that other person for some time who has reached a goal we also wanted to attain. Even a friend might bring out feelings of envy if he gets ahead of us.
Envy however could also trigger a competitive feeling on the one that suffers from it. That person will then strive harder to get ahead and try to overcome those that he felt had passed him in life’s race.
Usually we feel envy more often for those close to us, as for instance friends or other family members.
To overcome envy one should first recognize the feeling experienced and later try to understand the reasons that brought it on. If possible it might be good to even joke about it in order to deflate the emotion.